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To nurture a sociable child by building a “parent-

Children growing happily is every parent’s dream. Whether a child is welcomed by peers depends on a number of factors. However, some academic researches found that “parent-child bond” built at the infant stage had significant impact on the social skills of a person in his childhood or subsequent adulthood. Children with “secure bond” are able to demonstrate their excellent social skills at different stages of life.

 

Characteristics of the “secure bond” group

About 65% of infants display the pattern of “secure bond”. Generally, they are happier, more cooperative, and more willing to trust others. Accompanied by their parents, they are willing to explore the external environment as they believe that their parents are ready to offer helping hand. When they are separated from their parents, they appear to be sad or even cry. When they see their parents again, they appear to be happy with a warm welcome.

 

 


How to cultivate a secure bond with infants?

Social skills should advance with age. Parents have to pay attention to children’s needs and development:

 

From the age of 3 to 5

  • actively participate in learning and social functions
  • less frequently isolated
  • able to express themselves
  • have a positive self-image
  • persevering and flexible in the face of adversity

Primary to secondary school

  • More able to form friendships 
  • More confident and adaptable
  • More notable leadership qualities
  • Less aggressive or socially stressed

Researches indicated that parents who are positive about themselves, life and the future, able to control the important aspects of life, and built a secure bond with the caregivers during childhood found themselves easier to cultivate a secure bond with their own children.

Parents should note that the period of birth to 18 months is critical in building a secure bond between parents and children. Through repeated interactions with caregivers, infants develop a sense of trust in people and object in the surrounding environment. Researches found that parents whose infants feel secure possess the following qualities:

  • consistent, highly sensitive and responsive to the physical and emotional needs of the infants;
  • Affable and willing to have physical contact with the infants;
  • Spend more time with their infants on social activities, such as playing, talking, or holding their infants.

 

Social skills should advance with age. Parents can help them develop appropriate social skills by paying attention to children’s needs and providing adequate assistance when necessary.

Good social skill is essential for children to develop happy life.

Children at age of 3 to 5 can actively participate in learning and social functions.

 

 

 

 

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